Style and Self Esteem. I firmly believe these two go hand in hand. For some, focusing on style is frustrating, overwhelming and frankly, a bit unnecessary. Yet, finding and OWNING our signature style, can speak volumes for us!
“But wait, Taryn”, you say. “What does it matter what I look like or how I dress, when I’m a hard worker, a good person, a devoted mother and loving wife? All the important things are covered, so get off my back about wearing the same wardrobe I had when I had those (now teenaged?) babies?”
Or maybe it’s this…”Easy for you to say, you are a smaller size and can easily find things that fit you, so of course shopping is fun! Not for me, so what I’ve got, works.”
One more? Ok, what about…”That’s materialistic. Having to have new, trendy fashion so that people think better of me? Crazy talk. If they got to know me, then they’d realize it’s not about the clothes. It’s the person on the inside that counts!”
How’m I Doin’ So Far?
Any of those objections sound familiar? Hmmm, well…you aren’t alone. Often times when women are questioned about our style, these are the things that come quickly to mind. I personally think it’s because it removes any responsibility to put effort into ones self, and put the blame SQUARELY on the “judgemental” person. When in fact, if you think about it, there’s judgement by the one being questioned, assuming that the women who DO care about their style must be materialistic, etc. Whooooaaaaa…….what just happened there?!
You Can’t Forget About You
I’d be willing to bet, there is no parent, husband, child, family member, close friend or even perfect stranger, that wouldn’t feel incredibly happy to see you go from something “comfortable” or “good enough”, to WOW. And I promise it doesn’t take a fancy outfit to do that….just a few tweaks to what you are currently doing, focusing on details, fit & flatter, and of course, finish off with a little accessorizing! You CAN be all the things to others, and look good doing it too.
Not to attract attention; but ladies, we need to make sure that what we say on the outside of our bodies, reflects who we are on the INSIDE! The strong, savvy, organized, multi talented and put together humans that we are! And NOTHING sends that message to anyone in the first 3 seconds of meeting them more, than your personal style. How you present yourself. Your Method to Style.
Just like we have to teach our teenagers about daily personal hygiene (SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHY THIS IS SO HAAARRDDDD #clearlymycurrentsituation), we all have times when we need to re-teach ourselves how to fit our new bodies.
Friend, if you don’t come across as put together and approachable, then how will they come to know the amazing person you are “on the inside”!
Style & Self Esteem go hand in hand and this entire blog is designed to help you with the technical side of Style. Not just showing you clothes that I like, or you might like. If I share style tips that talk about what might work for you, how to create a cohesive wardrobe, and mix and match your pieces to look smart every single day….well, then that’s worth a read every once in a while don’t you think?!
But Taryn, Fashion Frustrates Me
Well, like Clinton Kelly said on his hit show TLC’s What Not To Wear, “Your passion doesn’t have to be about Fashion, your passion has to be YOU”.
Let me help you with the fashion side, and you allow for a little more creativity in how your step out into the world. Together we’ll find your Method to Style and move your look to the next level.
If you are new to Method39, and are ready to dive into some serious style tips, may I suggest this article on necklines, how to choose the right sunglasses / glasses frame for your face, and this one on jean shopping!